This Wednesday, I decided to try something different from my regular Wednesday Words of Wisdom. I found Word for Wednesday (W4W), hosted and created by Kittykat-BitsandBobs, while scrolling through The Daily Post on WordPress. As someone who loves writing and words, I had to participate in this great event.
As a writer or even a blogger, every word you choose has an impact and makes a statement. I think it’s important to step back and examine words in writing. To see past the obvious to the deeper meaning and the connotations we get from words.
My chosen word for today is quiet:
Quiet is a word that’s often been used to describe me. It’s my identifier, my label, my badge. And I say badge because I’m proud to wear this word.
Being quiet is part of who I am. Unfortunately, quiet is mistakenly associated with being shy, snobbish or troubled. I was often asked throughout my school and personal life: “Why are you so quiet?”
When someone sits quietly and observes, listening rather than talking, some people are confused and stunned. Why wouldn’t that person want to join in the conversation and have fun?
The truth of the matter is I was both shy and quiet. I’m no longer shy but quiet. The two are often paired together but they are not the same. Shyness is a fear of social situations, where the person is afraid and uncomfortable in social interactions. Quietness is more about keeping your thoughts and opinions to yourself, and being comfortable in your own company. Quiet is more similar to the word “reserved” than “shy.” An introvert is often quiet but not necessarily shy. When you are quiet, you’re more private, discreet and choose carefully what to share about yourself to others.
Nowadays I consider myself an introvert who sometimes likes to dance around, go to social events and joke around. My shyness, like a cold winter sheet of ice, has slowly faded away. I haven’t been called shy in a long time. I don’t blame people for their curiosity about my quiet nature. People just want to get to know another person or are just generally curious.
But being quiet shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing, a weakness or a minus in someone’s personality. It also shouldn’t inaccurately be confused with shyness. Shyness is nothing to be ashamed of either- it’s a fear that you can overcome. 🙂 An introverted personality should be celebrated and accepted, just as a wacky, humorous or extroverted personality is in society. I hope that people can learn to understand different personality types: that how you behave and act and feel is tied more to how you gain meaning and energy in your life rather than something that can easily be changed or altered.
If you’d like to participate, here are the rules:
- Choose your own word.
- Write about it.
- Tag it W4W.
- Link it back to Kittykat-BitsandBobs via the comments section.
- Add the badge to your post if you’d like.